Don’t be a jerk!
Common kindness can go a long way towards helping others and becoming a better person.
Next time you want to lash out at someone’s screw up, whether it be a waitress, a driver, or a co worker, please stop! Take a moment to consider the fact that you don’t know everything that is going on in their life. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t entitled to think what you want and have a mini swearing session to yourself in your car, but to actually lash out at another person and make them feel poorly about themselves is just you being a jerk. A polite conversation with a waitress can go a long way. She may be in training, or maybe a few of her colleagues didn’t show up and have left her in the lurch. Regardless, she doesn’t deserve to be belittled by an angry person.
If you are the waitress’ co worker, and she is having a difficult time with unruly customers, consider developing a system to approach these situations. Work should be a positive environment, shouldn’t it? If someone is repetitively doing something wrong, instead of immediately blaming them, consider that you may need to alter your teaching methods to match their learning style.
There is the flip side to this. You may be having a bad day, but that doesn’t give you the right to be a jerk. Be reserved, be quiet, be irritable, but find your therapy and don’t be a jerk just because you had a bad day. Get a workout in, go for a family walk, watch a funny movie or simply mope by yourself. All these coping mechanisms will make you feel better, and won’t hinder others. Being rude to others is not going to make you feel better, so why on earth would you want to make another human being feel worse?
No one is perfect, and I firmly stand by the quote below, but all we can do it our best to be polite and kind. In my opinion, you will notice that your environment can become a much happier place.
“Never, never be afraid to do what’s right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. Society’s punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Minister, Civil Rights Activist
Please be kind.